Nice guys have it hard. They simply do not fit in this world. And although they are always there to help, people usually do not take them seriously. Why? Well, that is just how this world works. It is completely unfair. However, while there are things that nice guys struggle with and cannot really do much about them always happening, there are also things they can affect. So what are the things that make life of a nice guy so disappointing?
- The fact that even when you are doing something nice for people while inconveniencing yourself, people may not realize that.
- The fact that many people will realize that and will start taking advantage of you.
- People tend to hurt you. They simply do not care about your feelings. However, not all of them. And you should probably distinguish the true friends from the ones who are only hurting you.
- Feeling owed. Do not do nice things just because you expect that other people will do them for you in return. It only results in you feeling disappointed.
- Trying too hard to persuade your new girlfriend that you are a nice guy that it actually scares her away.
The thing is, you are thinking about being nice too much. And you believe that it actually is good to always try to please everybody. But the fact is that you should probably put yourself first and learn to say “no”. At least sometimes. Just, do not let everybody do what they want with yourself!